Being an Efficient Procrastinator

This past weekend I made a lot of progress on my college design projects. Which made me curious, I work hard every weekend, why was this weekend more productive?

Well it all came down to the decisions I made. I had three big projects that were all about 30% done, they had been started but somewhere along the way I lost confidence or the drive to finish them, even though the deadlines were inching closer.

So I realized this and decided to pick them all up in one weekend. Now I have three things near completion and I keep working on them. I can see the finish line, and its driving me more than ever to complete my work.

When it comes down to procrastination, you ask yourself should I do my work or wait and do it later? you weigh the pros and cons and convence yourself one way or the other. for days/weeks I had been telling myself “the projects are 30% done, atleast I started them, ill get back to them eventually” and I decided to wait, which caused them to stick in the back of mind as things to do.

Suddenly the things to do list piled up and I became more stressed than ever, all because I decided 30% complete was good enough. Well I learned an important lesson about procrastination this weekend.

Procrastination is sort of an obsession with the now. When you dont want to be bombarded with work in the present, you push it to the near future, but you really cant do that efficiently because the future is unknown, you can not know what will effect your time or ability to work in the future, you can only know what will effect you in the present.

So moral to the story: When asking yourself should I do my work now or later, its good advice to only consider the present and what you have time for and what will effect your abilities to work at that particular moment. The future decision is then chosen only if the present decision is unattainable. that way your decision is the most efficient one 🙂

Helping others make Decisions

Recently I had a friend confess to me a huge secret, one that puts herself and others in financial danger all because she is afraid to tell the truth. Such a simple thing…the truth.

Its a very fascinating thing how ones fears can drive them into a place where they rationalize against the rational. They are so scared of one possibility that it prevents them from seeing all the other possibilities. Its so hard to help people in this state, they have potentially already made up their minds, and look to you for advice, when you know the only advice you have is to change their minds. Its hard because in the end its their decision, and you cant get into peoples heads and help them see, all you can do is give your two cents and hope that it pays off!

 

 

After helping my friend I realized that I too have been clouded by fear and I want to thank those who stood by their beliefs and helped me make the best decision because I couldn’t see it without their help.

 

 

TRUST…its a decision

Recently I have been betrayed emotionally

When someone betrays you and asks for your forgiveness, you must decide in that moment, “can I trust this person to not do it again”?

I crazy amount of thoughts suddenly pour into your head….battling back and forth

  • Can I risk being hurt again?
  • How many times has this person proven to care and love me?
  • How many times has this person proven to not care and love me?
  • What if I forgive them and they do it again, will I snap, will I do something regrettable, will it ruin me
  • What if it happens again and I just let it go, and settle for something I don’t want

Communication and Time is the only way…that person must understand what they did, and must be considerate of your sensitive state, and with communication and time, the wounds can be healed.

that is if you decide you want them too!

But I thought I made my own decisions?

Sometimes people make decisions for you.

No matter how much I love him or how much I would sacrifice, I cant change his mind. I am not sure what is worse, an angry break up or a calm slightly one sided one. Either way I am now faced with a decision to make (be positive or be negative). A lot of decisions can be broken down into their basic positive or negative components . I can hate him, love him, be his friend, have nothing to do with him, so many things I could do. This soon in the game I can’t accurately make a decision as to what is best, so really all I can do is try to stay positive till my head clears and all the thoughts fall in place.

Through my many love quarrels, I have learned that rash decisions are never the best ones. Love is a delicate emotion that lives next door to hate. By allowing yourself to love someone you have become extremely vulnerable, and to have that person hurt you even if they mean well, it can cause you to turn to hate as a way to defend your breaking heart. To hate is the easy decision, and the easy decision is not always the best decision. At least thats what I believe.

Give People A Chance

Today I have decided that I should give people a better chance.

I have a horrible habit of forgetting peoples names as soon as I meet them. This could be because I find no value in the conversation with them, I have my mind on other things or perhaps I just dont give people a chance. Even if I am meeting you for the first time, I think I owe it to you and myself to at least remember your name. People come and go and you never know when you will meet them again or how you will benefit from your connection with them, so why not just give people a better chance 🙂

I have made the decision to change this part of me but I still need some advice.

Any advice as to how I can remember names better?

The $20 Hero

While walking through the union of BGSU I looked up to the second floor and saw a man walking up a ramp. I then noticed that he dropped what looked like money. I tried to get to the second floor quickly to save the mans money but the room was flooded with anime characters, considering it was Animarathon. Once I reached the ramp another stranger picked up the money, which I suddenly realized was $20. I told this new stranger that I knew who that money belonged to. The man pulled the money towards him in disbelief. I explained the entire scenario to the man and he eventually handed me the money. I then proceeded to give the money to its rightful owner.

The owner of the cash was very confused, he was completely unaware that he had even lost money but he was happy all the same. I was suddenly smiling cause I had made someones day. The man thanked me and said he would give me part of the money if it wasn’t a $20 bill. I said thank you, and we parted ways. Walking away from the scenario I realized how such a quick decision made a big difference. I could have observed the man dropping something, and just left it at that but instead I decided to investigate and from there I was on a mission.

In todays day and age we make decisions constantly, there is never a day that a decision doesn’t have to be made. So we should practice that ability, and make the best of each decision. I am glad that my quick thinking lead me to become a $20 Hero.