Helping others make Decisions

Recently I had a friend confess to me a huge secret, one that puts herself and others in financial danger all because she is afraid to tell the truth. Such a simple thing…the truth.

Its a very fascinating thing how ones fears can drive them into a place where they rationalize against the rational. They are so scared of one possibility that it prevents them from seeing all the other possibilities. Its so hard to help people in this state, they have potentially already made up their minds, and look to you for advice, when you know the only advice you have is to change their minds. Its hard because in the end its their decision, and you cant get into peoples heads and help them see, all you can do is give your two cents and hope that it pays off!

 

 

After helping my friend I realized that I too have been clouded by fear and I want to thank those who stood by their beliefs and helped me make the best decision because I couldn’t see it without their help.

 

 

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TRUST…its a decision

Recently I have been betrayed emotionally

When someone betrays you and asks for your forgiveness, you must decide in that moment, “can I trust this person to not do it again”?

I crazy amount of thoughts suddenly pour into your head….battling back and forth

  • Can I risk being hurt again?
  • How many times has this person proven to care and love me?
  • How many times has this person proven to not care and love me?
  • What if I forgive them and they do it again, will I snap, will I do something regrettable, will it ruin me
  • What if it happens again and I just let it go, and settle for something I don’t want

Communication and Time is the only way…that person must understand what they did, and must be considerate of your sensitive state, and with communication and time, the wounds can be healed.

that is if you decide you want them too!